Supporting someone with a Mental Health Illness like Depression is one of the toughest things person could do. It’s not easy watching a person you love in so much pain. if you even experience, living with depression or taking care of someone with depression you really have no clue how depression affects your body. Depression is more than just tearfulness or feelings of sadness. It refers to a range of mood and other symptoms that are intense, long-lasting and distressing to the person. These symptoms will likely interfere with a person’s day-to-day life and relationships. loving someone with this illness is challenging because you never know how your loved one is going to react on a daily basis.
Here’s a few quotes from people who live with someone whos depressed, and how they feel
“We’ve been together for ten years now and I can’t imagine our lives without the depression. It’s a living thing. It lives and breathes ¿ but it seems you can’t kill it. Sometimes, at my lowest ebb, I ask myself not what’s wrong with him, but what’s wrong with me. Why can’t I make him happy? That’s what caring for someone with depression does to you. It gives you a sense of guilt.”
“When you live with a depressed person, it can be painfully difficult.”
“For men who have depressed partners, feeling helpless is especially common. Generally, men are fixers. When they hear of a problem, their reaction is to fix it. But depression is not so easily fixed, therefore the result is helplessness and frustration. This can complicate the helping process.”
“It is difficult to feel helpless, which is often the case when you live with a depressed individual. It may not be healthy to feel it is one’s duty to rescue a partner, and certainly not to take responsibility for his or her feelings. And this does happen often in relationships.”
The frustrating thing part about it is feeling helpless, you wonder how you can maintain, and you wonder if it’s really worth it…… The temptation is there to tell your loved one to “look on the bright side” or “snap out of it.” But would you say that to a physically injured person? Mental illness can be difficult to understand what it is like unless you’ve experienced it yourself. We live in a world where “5 Easy Steps” is touted as the solution to all problems. But the reality is that getting out of bed and going to work when you’re depressed isn’t about following a simple lifehack, summoning the right amount of willpower, or bribing yourself. Motivating catchphrases are never helpful, and will probably be met with hostility and irritability.
Don’t be discouraged. Overcoming depression is possible and probably for many people, but it’s no simple task. So what can you do for your loved one? what I’ve learned is that you have to be persisted.
Take the time to communicate to your loved one. Reassure them that you understand and that you are here for them. Let them know you don’t think they are weak, and that you know they are not choosing to feel the way they do.
Involve the person as much as you can in the decision-making process. So rather than saying, “You need to get out of the house and go outside today,” you could say, “I’d like to get outside today. Would you rather go for a walk in the park or go see a movie?” If they refuse, it’s important not to force them to do anything. Instead, provide genuine praise for the small successes and avoid sarcasm.
Loving someone with a Mental Illness takes time, and you can’t force it. Never ever forget to care of your mind, body, and other relationships when a loved one is struggling. Depressed people are often perceived as being self-centered because all of their focus and energy is caught up in dealing with the disorder. Therefore you may need to turn to other friends and family members for support and encouragement. Counseling or a support group can be an incredibly helpful resource to learn more about depression but also to learn positive coping skills for yourself as well.
Always Remember to always encourage your loved one to seek help and please check out our Resource page to get help for you or someone you know that is battling depression or throughs of suicide in your local area.